Always remember: You Are What You Are… And You Mean So Much To This World. Wake Up Everyday, Determined To Store In You Motivation. Make It A Priority. You Are Strong, And Phenomenal.
Hello everyone!! Good morning I hope you’re enjoying your Sunday. Or are you having a crappy day? Need a little motivation? Okay… that’s why I’m here….
We all have some good days, and than, we all have those bad days. Not everyday is going to be a perfect day. Not everyday is going to be a good day… everyday have a purpose.
I know exactly how those days are. Especially…. when dealing with mental illness. It’s painful and it drains you. Not physically but emotionally… but you mustn’t lose hope. You mean so much to this world. Now I know depression by itself, can kill your motivation by making you feel like there’s no point to anything.
Major depression, clinical depression… is very severe. Those in a major clinical depression, life is like a dark place full of nothing but pain, hopelessness, and insecurity. Some may taunt at the ideal of medication as an answer. But with most mental illness, medications are much needed. Therapy and taking your medications can actually be a miracle. Medications are for, and deal with chemical imbalances.
Sometimes the blame can actually be placed on brain chemistry. Neurotransmitters don’t work right, and brain chemicals such as serotonin, norepinephrine, and dopamine— your feel-good chemicals— often doesn’t go where they’re suppose to. Find the right medications, and you may feel more like your actual self again. When you’re feeling better, becoming motivated becomes more easier.
A good therapist goes hand in hand with medications. One without the other is kind of a half-solution. Talking to a trained professional therapist, you’ll feel better because you’re sitting and talking to someone who knows how to listen.
Good friends listen, yes, but don’t go forego a therapist for a friend. Well-meaning friends may tell you to just get over it or to pull yourself up by your bootstraps and socks. This effects in a remorseless cycle. Making you feel worthless and stupid because you’re finding it hard to brush your teeth, much less to pull yourself up by your bootstraps and socks. This leads to a deepening depression/mental illness, which leads to more “helpful” remarks, which in fact, leads to even more depression. More anxiety. Unfortunately the thick, ugly scars of depression, or any other mental illness, are not outwardly visible, and when your wounds aren’t visible, sympathy from your friends, and family, is hard to come by.
Surround yourself around people who are familiar with mental illness instead of those who believe it’s just all in your head. Every morning wake up, brush your teeth, and brush your hair, take your bath and get dressed. Don’t give yourself time to second think, don’t give yourself time to talk yourself out of it. Act as if you feel great already and you know for a fact you’re leaving the house and have a good time. Getting dressed, getting pretty looking decent can actually go along way towards giving you a mental boost. It may even give you enough energy, motivation to actually go to the gym, or exercise, which is great for alleviating mental illness, such as, depression.
Depression… major depression can change your brain in a way that makes it difficult to experience a sense of pleasure or reward. When depression makes you unbearably sad, numb, or exhausted, you might not feel like there is a reason to do anything. Most times you feel like “what’s the point right?”
When depression, or any other mental illness drains your motivation, you have to work to create new incentive to replace what existed naturally before your mental health deteriorated. It starts with setting goals. You can set a simple goal such as, grocery shopping. Once you succeed that… reward yourself by cooking your favorite meal, and watch/catch up on your favorite tv show.
Steadily increase the difficulty of the goals. As you feel better. Try taking a long walk and reward yourself later with your favorite chocolate candy. Like for example, my favorite chocolate candy is the chocolate turtles. Mmm Mmm Mmm good! (lol) Or another one of my favorites… chocolate cupcake. Whichever is your favorite though. Good treat.
I love cupcakes. Especially chocolate. Like for instance today… I washed and fold clothes, mopped and cleaned up my apartment, and treated myself with a chocolate cupcake with a lot of icing. My favorite, my treat. Order your favorite movie, or do like me… Watch a good movie on Netflix. Make sure to always set a goal for each day, once they’re accomplished, treat yourself to something new. There’s different options you can try, and see which works better.
Remember Your Life Before Depression/mental illness
Before depression set in, before you started struggling from mental illness, what did you enjoy doing? As they all come to mind, get a paper and write them all down. Than positioning them in terms of what you are able to accomplish, from most to least difficult. Until you are more motivated and have more energy, it’s best to start with the easy steps.
Think on what steps you can take to get back into a routine that includes those same activities. You might like volunteer work. Your next step should be to make some calls, and make a start day to make it happen. Than show up. Your motivation a start building up from there.
In a similar mood, think about what motivated you before the depression, before your mental health problems. What was it that inspired you? It could be from now or childhood. Revisit those sources of motivation. Get in touch with parts of yourself that may feel distant.
Evaluate Any Negative Self–Talk
Mental illness, like depression, is often a unconscious voice that relentlessly tells you there is no point in anything. Replace those negative thoughts with positive, intelligent beliefs. Tell yourself everyday, over and over, there is a point, you are somebody, you are beautiful. Even if you don’t believe it. Say it!
Look At Outer Factors
Sometimes outer factors kill your vibe, your motivation and contribute to clinical depression. Say you’re stuck at a dead end job. The only motivation you have to do good work is to keep your job and put food in your home. And honestly, it’s obviously not as refreshing as an environment you can move up and have more responsibilities if you work hard.
Here Are A Few Common Situations That Might Be Killing Motivation:
- Being a victim of discrimination
- Abuse or bullying in school or maybe at your job
- A chronic illness or exhausting health issue
- Family or friends who put you down
Does one or more of these factors are present in your life? Than examine the affect they have on your ability to feel motivated.
Everyone who hurt you, makes you feel worthless, and unmotivated… if you have to dismiss them out of your life than do so. You don’t need negative people around you. Surround yourself with positive people with positive vibes. I promise you’ll see the difference.
Everyday get out of bed and out of them pajamas… simply getting up is a great victory of the day to start off with. If you have to leave little sticky notes around with positive affirmations where you see them all the time, such as “you’re beautiful,” “yes you can do it,” or “every long journey begins with one little step.” Another one… “never give up!” Whatever thoughts you create your brain digest, so make sure to feed it positive ones. Read uplifting content. And focus on feelings of gratitude.
Whatever gives you an energy boost, mental boost, do it. There’s many techniques, choose those that works for you. Worry less, motivate yourself back on track in your life.
Focus on you!! Focus on what motivates you to move forward. Focus on making “you” happy. Focus on getting you better. Focus on putting yourself first everyday, treat yourself… take a ride to the mall, or catch a movie, buy yourself a new outfit, live in the moment.
Everyday look in the mirror, and tell yourself, “I love you,”and “you got this,” tell yourself, “you’re beautiful Inside and out,” whether you believe it or not… repeat this everyday. Make it a routine to pamper yourself, make it a routine to tell yourself nice things.
Each and everyday are days to motivate yourself, and set goals for yourself. Try it…. it really works, it starts to spark up motivation.
Each day… wake up, take a nice warm bath, fix your hair, or brush your hair (for the men) write down a to-do list. When you succeeded each, mark them with a check mark and be proud of yourself.
It doesn’t matter where you may be in life, or where you stay, or who you stay with… you are enough. You are worth it. You’re worth the happiness. Don’t let your past dictate your future. It starts with you.
Don’t give up! You got this! Don’t ever stop fighting, keep pushing, everyday.