HAPPY BIRTHDAY 🎂🎁🎉🎊 TO ME!!!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY 🎂🎁🎉🎊 TO ME!!!

HELLO EVERYONE!!! Good evening….

Do you guys know what today is??! It’s my birthday!!! 🎂🎂🎊🎉🎁👏🏾. 32 years old today!! And I must say I don’t look like it at all!! HAPPY BIRTHDAY 🎈🎂🎁🎉🎊 TO ME!!!!! My 32 chapter of life. I thank God for letting me see another birthday 🎂🙏🏾💯👌🏾💪🏾 I woke up to my SON staring at me/over me lol, I opened my eyes and he smiling while singing “HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU…. HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU…. HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO MY BEAUTIFUL MOMMIE, I LOVE YOU” 🥰🥰😘😘💪🏾🤞🏾🤞🏾💯💯 I love my son SO much!! And he can be so sweet , but majority of the time he’s just like me lol. He made my BIRTHDAY special already. It’s been rough through the years but I’m still here!!! Yet another year, 32 might I add. ☺️☺️ AGAIN…. HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME…!!!!

Me and my son Jayden “JJ”
He love ❤️ his mom

So very thankful for God letting me live to see another birthday. It’s a pretty day outside, I don’t plan on doing much, just going to snuggle up with my baby boy and watch some movies. You can’t do to much without transportation/funds. But I’m still very thankful… thankful for being a live to see another birthday.

Mental Health: How To Keep Pushing When You Feel Like Giving Up

Mental Health: How To Keep Pushing When You Feel Like Giving Up

No matter how victorious you might be in business and life, success doesn’t give you impunity and humanness. To be honest, we all have our bad days, especially days where you don’t want to get out of bed. What happens when we feel so low, what happen when we feel our purpose, what do we do when we feel like giving up, whether it’s a relationship or employment? Also, what if this feelings and emotions last weeks, months, or even years?

Some days are light but motivating. Some days are purely procedures. And some days you may think to yourself “ugh, I give up.” You just feel like giving up on everything, i everyday tasks.


Remember that saying what doesn’t kill you can only make you stronger? Well sometimes it doesn’t always make you stronger. Sometimes it’s really hard in life, sometimes life is way more than you can carry. Stress just piling up, one stress to another. Stress piling up when you haven’t gotten over the first blow. It be blow after blow sometimes.

You’re hobbling on, but each day gets harder and harder. It’s harder to tend to your commitments, harder to care about anything or anyone, including you, and it’s even harder to get out of the bed almost every day. Ideas don’t even come to mind, new ideas, making just about everything feeling like you’re just floating through antidote. This only adds to your sense of failure.

You really want it to end, most times your spirit threatens you to shatter under an immense load of bad events, thoughts, or feelings. Not to mention, holidays are often the hardest time, as you’re trying to cope with really high expectations that far exceeds the resources that’s actually available. High-quality images of people and their lives that doesn’t match your reality. It’s very very painful.

The atmosphere is very dark, and your strength is gone, so what’s there to do? What can you do? like right now? Perhaps all your brain wants unconsciousness, yet your body solely knows one thing. When broken, even at the extremities of suffering and pain, your body still strives through. When aiding your body can actually help your mind.

Very often we as people neglect our physical health when we feel low. Caught up in mental and emotional battles. If you really think about it, our physical needs is really another burden to carry, so we kind of ignore them. Honestly, we have to acknowledge the battles and set them aside for now, rather than being consumed by feeling and thinking. All we have to do is, something practical, but it’s to help ourselves. For example, you need to focus on survival, yes it’s strange but it’s true. Our minds rest easier in a body that is usefully occupied.

When you keep yourself occupied constantly, you’ll find peace than your body and mind can be at ease. Our minds can rest much easier and function correctly, in a body that keeps active. “Face Depression”

You need both your mind and body to work together in order to feel better.

I’ve experienced those days before, that’s why I know how to deal with those day when they come approach. We’re all humans, we all have some some days and some bad days. But we have to do what’s right/what’s best for our mind and our body.

I’ve came up with some ways/somethings you can do when you feel like giving up. Check it out…. give it a try. Let’s not stay sad let’s get happy

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Why I Blog On Mental Illness/Mental Health Disorders? Read To Find Out Exactly Why

Why I Blog On Mental Illness/Mental Health Disorders? Read To Find Out Exactly Why

Mental illnesses often, well always, goes without any understanding, most people actually believe it’s all a fake, like it’s all in everyone’s mind. Especially if the illnesses aren’t visible. Which is so unfair to those who’s actually suffering.

It’s sad that people actually think all mental illnesses can/should be seen. And believing that it can’t or won’t happen to them. Those beliefs… makes me sick! It can happen to anybody, no matter your lifestyle, your skin color, or your age, mental illnesses don’t discriminate towards no one.

Many people feel that mental illness is rare, something that only happens to people with life differences, situations, very different from their own. Believing it will never affect them. There’s studies of the epidemiology of mental illness indicate that this belief is very far from accurate.

I blog on mental illnesses because they are very real. It can happen to anyone, it doesn’t have to just be because of a person’s life differences, or situations. But it can most definitely happen. No matter how old you are or what color you are. It doesn’t matter if you’re a girl or boy, man or woman.

Now on the other hand…. sometimes mental health problems can happen from certain life situations. But not all the time. I blog because I know how it feels to feel extreme sadness, dark emotions, and always feeling guilty. Those heartless feelings. Feelings that have you feeling guilty for just thinking them.

I’m here to tell those who don’t believe in mental illnesses… do some research, it’s real. Mental illnesses are so real. It’s just the same/just as important as a physical illness. Stop with the negative stigma about mental illnesses if you’ve never ever experienced one or more of mental illnesses. How can you judge something that you’ve never had to lug around day and night? Something that can really be severe to fight. It affects how a person think, feel, or mood. It also affects how you behave, and function. What’s so hard about understanding, and excepting that?

Those beliefs and those negative comments on mental illnesses is very discriminating and very selfish. Especially to those who don’t understand it or who have never experienced any of the conditions. The negative comments, the negative stigma towards mental illnesses makes me so furious!!

I blog on mental illnesses because The darkness of depression, bipolar, and panic attacks are so real, the pain and heartache, the emotions as well as feelings, can be severe. Symptoms of mental illnesses can be life threatening, so tell me… how it’s not real?! To those who say “it’s all in our minds.” We wish it was all in our minds!

Who wants to feel depressed, sad, guilty, or catch panic attacks or anxiety attacks for the hell of it? That’s just crazy! Now that’s insane to even think that! Just plain ridiculous.

That’s why I’m here…. to spread awareness, and to let others know that it is okay if you have a mental health disorder. You have no reason to be ashamed about it, and you have no reason to hide it.

If not taken care of, like getting treatment, mental illnesses can take over your life. Depression (major depression), bipolar disorder, ptsd, and ocd can be treated. Just like all other mental illnesses. Just like physical Illnesses such as cancer, diabetes, and heart disease.

Mental illnesses are the exact same way, when a person is diagnosed with cancer, they have to get treatment and take their medications, it’s the same thing with your mental health. It’s okay if you have to take medications all your life, your mental health matters. Don’t let depression or any other mental illness take over your life. The plan is to fight back and regain your life.

Getting treatment, asking for help, and by taking your medicine how it’s prescribed to you, and also keeping up with your appointments… and last but not least…, going to therapy. That is the first best step to fighting back and wanting to regain, and reclaim your life back, and also on the road to recovery.

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Mental Health: Looks Can Most Definitely Be Deceiving… Don’t Believe It

Mental Health: Looks Can Most Definitely Be Deceiving… Don’t Believe It

A person can have everything they could ever imagine. Their life is so perfect, and you never hear anything negative about them. They could be living in a 3 story house, beautiful kids, and a wife/husband.

That husband could be facing unexplainable emotions and feelings. He’s probably ashamed because he’s the man of the house, and men are suppose to be strong. Right?!


A person could be the happiest wife, prettiest wife….

With a big paying job… and on the inside, when that person is by themselves…

Guess what?! At night that person could be struggling with depression, and/or anxiety attacks. That person might be fighting for their life on the inside.

When that person is by themself, and home alone… they probably just sit crying inside. You never know what a person is going through. You never know what type of demons a person could be fighting on a daily basis. You don’t know what type of emotions or/and feelings this person face everyday. They feel like they’re dying on the inside. Thoughts and emotions rushing through your mind, feeling hopeless, feeling like nothing is even worth it. You’re just so unhappy. But you pretend well because you don’t know who to trust… or who to tell.

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Hello Everyone… New Post Coming Up So Please Stay Tuned

Hello Everyone… New Post Coming Up So Please Stay Tuned

Hello hello everyone! I hope you all are having a great Tuesday.

Up next…. when major depression makes you lose hope, remember don’t give up. So to all my beautiful followers stay tuned. This post is next up.

Sorry it’s been a few days since posting… but I had therapy and some other appointments I had to make it to, but I’m still here fighting. And I want/expect others to continue to fight with me. We in this together, and believe me when I say… it can and will get better!! We got this fight. We not giving up. There’s that beautiful light at the end of the tunnel for all of us.

Everyday won’t be a good day but pray, stay focused, and keep pushing yourself. Things can and will get better.

Also…. if you or someone you know struggling with your mental health… get the help that you need. It’s a must. Your mental health is another priority just like a physical illness, you get treated for diabetes, you can be treated for your mental illness. Muah!! Don’t give up you’re not no where near alone. Keep pushing. Keep fighting.

Mental Health: Don’t Worry About What Others Say About Your Mental Illness

Mental Health: Don’t Worry About What Others Say About Your Mental Illness
Worry Less Live More

You’re not to blame for your mental illness, neither are you to blame, for the thoughts and feelings that comes right along with it. It’s not your fault, it’s a medical result. Something you don’t want but truly and honestly, you gets no choice… it’s remorseless. It also affects your behavior, and concentration, making it difficult to do the simplest things.

When it comes to mental illness… people say the darnedest things!! With no kind of understanding.

Mental illness is sometimes debilitating, embarrassing, and really really misunderstood. Many people just don’t understand. What’s the most insensitive thing someone’s said to you about your mental illness??

I’ve heard things like “I had depression and I got over mine.” Really?! Yes! How harsh is that right? I’ve also heard, “it’s time for you to grow up now,” or “maybe you need a hobby,” wow right? I’m serious. I’m telling you the truth. It’s devastating. That was horrible to say to someone with a mental illness.

But no matter what, don’t let such ignorance get to you. People need to think before speaking because, you never know what someone is going through. Sometimes you don’t have to say nothing. Your presence could be enough. Imagine a friend comes to see you in the hospital, don’t know why but, when you tell him/her they reply, “At least it’s not cancer,” enough for you to slap them (lol) just kidding, just a little humor…. but yeah it makes you angry because mental illness is just as serious as other physical illnesses. You can to die from mental illness just like you can die from a physical condition.

Everyone is “fighting a battle you know nothing about.” So try to be kind… you won’t die from being kind. You can’t judge a book by it’s cover is indeed a very true saying.

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Mental Health: Need Some Help Getting Your Motivation Back? I Can Help You With That.

Mental Health: Need Some Help Getting Your Motivation Back? I Can Help You With That.

Always remember: You Are What You Are… And You Mean So Much To This World. Wake Up Everyday, Determined To Store In You Motivation. Make It A Priority. You Are Strong, And Phenomenal.

Hello everyone!! Good morning I hope you’re enjoying your Sunday. Or are you having a crappy day? Need a little motivation? Okay… that’s why I’m here….

We all have some good days, and than, we all have those bad days. Not everyday is going to be a perfect day. Not everyday is going to be a good day… everyday have a purpose.

I know exactly how those days are. Especially…. when dealing with mental illness. It’s painful and it drains you. Not physically but emotionally… but you mustn’t lose hope. You mean so much to this world. Now I know depression by itself, can kill your motivation by making you feel like there’s no point to anything.

Major depression, clinical depressionis very severe. Those in a major clinical depression, life is like a dark place full of nothing but pain, hopelessness, and insecurity. Some may taunt at the ideal of medication as an answer. But with most mental illness, medications are much needed. Therapy and taking your medications can actually be a miracle. Medications are for, and deal with chemical imbalances.

Sometimes the blame can actually be placed on brain chemistry. Neurotransmitters don’t work right, and brain chemicals such as serotonin, norepinephrine, and dopamine— your feel-good chemicals— often doesn’t go where they’re suppose to. Find the right medications, and you may feel more like your actual self again. When you’re feeling better, becoming motivated becomes more easier.

A good therapist goes hand in hand with medications. One without the other is kind of a half-solution. Talking to a trained professional therapist, you’ll feel better because you’re sitting and talking to someone who knows how to listen.

Good friends listen, yes, but don’t go forego a therapist for a friend. Well-meaning friends may tell you to just get over it or to pull yourself up by your bootstraps and socks. This effects in a remorseless cycle. Making you feel worthless and stupid because you’re finding it hard to brush your teeth, much less to pull yourself up by your bootstraps and socks. This leads to a deepening depression/mental illness, which leads to more “helpful” remarks, which in fact, leads to even more depression. More anxiety. Unfortunately the thick, ugly scars of depression, or any other mental illness, are not outwardly visible, and when your wounds aren’t visible, sympathy from your friends, and family, is hard to come by.

Surround yourself around people who are familiar with mental illness instead of those who believe it’s just all in your head. Every morning wake up, brush your teeth, and brush your hair, take your bath and get dressed. Don’t give yourself time to second think, don’t give yourself time to talk yourself out of it. Act as if you feel great already and you know for a fact you’re leaving the house and have a good time. Getting dressed, getting pretty looking decent can actually go along way towards giving you a mental boost. It may even give you enough energy, motivation to actually go to the gym, or exercise, which is great for alleviating mental illness, such as, depression.

Depression… major depression can change your brain in a way that makes it difficult to experience a sense of pleasure or reward. When depression makes you unbearably sad, numb, or exhausted, you might not feel like there is a reason to do anything. Most times you feel like “what’s the point right?”

When depression, or any other mental illness drains your motivation, you have to work to create new incentive to replace what existed naturally before your mental health deteriorated. It starts with setting goals. You can set a simple goal such as, grocery shopping. Once you succeed that… reward yourself by cooking your favorite meal, and watch/catch up on your favorite tv show.

Steadily increase the difficulty of the goals. As you feel better. Try taking a long walk and reward yourself later with your favorite chocolate candy. Like for example, my favorite chocolate candy is the chocolate turtles. Mmm Mmm Mmm good! (lol) Or another one of my favorites… chocolate cupcake. Whichever is your favorite though. Good treat.

I love cupcakes. Especially chocolate. Like for instance today… I washed and fold clothes, mopped and cleaned up my apartment, and treated myself with a chocolate cupcake with a lot of icing. My favorite, my treat. Order your favorite movie, or do like me… Watch a good movie on Netflix. Make sure to always set a goal for each day, once they’re accomplished, treat yourself to something new. There’s different options you can try, and see which works better.

Remember Your Life Before Depression/mental illness

Before depression set in, before you started struggling from mental illness, what did you enjoy doing? As they all come to mind, get a paper and write them all down. Than positioning them in terms of what you are able to accomplish, from most to least difficult. Until you are more motivated and have more energy, it’s best to start with the easy steps.

Think on what steps you can take to get back into a routine that includes those same activities. You might like volunteer work. Your next step should be to make some calls, and make a start day to make it happen. Than show up. Your motivation a start building up from there.

In a similar mood, think about what motivated you before the depression, before your mental health problems. What was it that inspired you? It could be from now or childhood. Revisit those sources of motivation. Get in touch with parts of yourself that may feel distant.

Evaluate Any Negative SelfTalk

Mental illness, like depression, is often a unconscious voice that relentlessly tells you there is no point in anything. Replace those negative thoughts with positive, intelligent beliefs. Tell yourself everyday, over and over, there is a point, you are somebody, you are beautiful. Even if you don’t believe it. Say it!

Look At Outer Factors

Sometimes outer factors kill your vibe, your motivation and contribute to clinical depression. Say you’re stuck at a dead end job. The only motivation you have to do good work is to keep your job and put food in your home. And honestly, it’s obviously not as refreshing as an environment you can move up and have more responsibilities if you work hard.

Here Are A Few Common Situations That Might Be Killing Motivation:

  • Being a victim of discrimination
  • Abuse or bullying in school or maybe at your job
  • A chronic illness or exhausting health issue
  • Family or friends who put you down

Does one or more of these factors are present in your life? Than examine the affect they have on your ability to feel motivated.

Everyone who hurt you, makes you feel worthless, and unmotivated… if you have to dismiss them out of your life than do so. You don’t need negative people around you. Surround yourself with positive people with positive vibes. I promise you’ll see the difference.

Everyday get out of bed and out of them pajamas… simply getting up is a great victory of the day to start off with. If you have to leave little sticky notes around with positive affirmations where you see them all the time, such as “you’re beautiful,” “yes you can do it,” or “every long journey begins with one little step.” Another one… “never give up!” Whatever thoughts you create your brain digest, so make sure to feed it positive ones. Read uplifting content. And focus on feelings of gratitude.

Whatever gives you an energy boost, mental boost, do it. There’s many techniques, choose those that works for you. Worry less, motivate yourself back on track in your life.

Focus on you!! Focus on what motivates you to move forward. Focus on making “you” happy. Focus on getting you better. Focus on putting yourself first everyday, treat yourself… take a ride to the mall, or catch a movie, buy yourself a new outfit, live in the moment.

Everyday look in the mirror, and tell yourself, “I love you,”and “you got this,” tell yourself, “you’re beautiful Inside and out,” whether you believe it or not… repeat this everyday. Make it a routine to pamper yourself, make it a routine to tell yourself nice things.

Each and everyday are days to motivate yourself, and set goals for yourself. Try it…. it really works, it starts to spark up motivation.

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