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Ways To End The Stigma Around Mental Illnesses

 

Everyone knows about the stigma around mental illnesses. Everyone knows the harsh, and hurtful things that’s been said, and still being said today, about people who struggle with a mental illness. All the stigma needs to end, because we are all humans. Just because someone has cancer does that make them different? No right? Ok. Just because someone has a mental illness, that doesn’t make them different. The mental illness doesn’t define them. Calling someone with a mental illness ‘crazy’ or ‘insane’ or saying “suck it up” or “you chose to be this way” won’t make things go away. It’ll make things worse, and they’ll just isolate themselves. Take time to learn about mental illnesses, and ways to help your loved one, or whomever. Do research on the mental illness your loved one, or friend, is dealing with, and educate yourself about other types of mental illnesses. 

Stop with all the negative, hurtful, and ignorant, remarks about people with mental illnesses. Those people with a mental illness are still humans, and they do have feelings! Showing some compassion to those who struggle with a mental illness, would be classy! Being judged for something you can’t control, and others think you can control it, if you just tried to. You can’t, and won’t understand something, if you haven’t gone through it. All of the negative stigma, causes those with a mental illness, to not get help. Feeling ashamed, and embarrassed, they rather deal with it, on their own. And that is a lot of baggage! Stop the stigma about mental illnesses, especially if it’s something you’ve never had to deal with or, if you’ve never experienced it. How can you judge it? 

Stop the stigma around mental illnesses,  give those who struggle with a mental illness reassurance, and a listening ear for a change. Like I said, show some compassion. Listen, and let those explain the pain, feelings, guilt, emotions, and thoughts of having a mental illness, and the nightmare days it brings with it. Showing people with a mental illness reassurance, and letting them know that having a mental illness is okay, would help them open up, and talk about it. Stop saying things like “you’re crazy” or “you’re retarded,” because words do matters! Choose your words carefully, what you say is important. Try being supportive and helpful. Avoiding those stigmatizing statements, could actually help stop the shame and fear that’s regularly linked with mental illness. Those people living with depression fear being judged, and that right there, is a big reason people avoid healing, avoid getting treatment. 

No one expects their loved one or friend to “get over” cancer or diabetes, but it’s regularly the response when someone with depression expresses his or her feelings and emotions. “get over it” might be the worst thing anyone can say to someone with depression. “Clinical depression is definitely not a choice. No one chooses to be depressed. Come on now. Also, no depression is neither a moral failing, a weakness of will or a ghost of the imagination. Depression is a medical disorder, a biological disruption of brain chemistry linked to and triggered by some combination of genetics, family history, past trauma, stress and other elements.

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Some other ways to end the stigma about/around mental illnesses.

Talk openly about mental health, put the shame, and embarrassment to an end. 

Show those who talk negative about people with mental illnesses, that you aren’t crazy and that you’re going to make it. Show them that you aren’t insane, you have a brain, just like them, your brain just overthinks at times. 

Encourage equality between physical and mental illness.

Choose empowerment over shame.

Be conscious of language.

Treat those with a mental illness with dignity and some respect.

Stop using degrading words about people with a mental illness.

Don’t ever assume someone is okay just because they look or act okay or sometimes smile or laugh.

Depression, anxiety, and other mental illnesses can often be hidden, but the person can actually still be in considerable internal distress. Support them, provide reassurance especially, when you know someone is struggling to manage their mental illness.

Finding different opportunities to pass on facts and positive attitudes about people with mental health problems, is a great start.

Stop using hurtful, and derogatory languages, the way you speak can affect the way other people think and speak. Simple

Promote positive messages of respect, hope, and, recovery, on social media. Everywhere.

For many who already carry such a heavy burden, stigma is an unacceptable addition to their pain.

Educate yourself and others.

Don’t be insensitive or blame people with mental illnesses.

Be aware of your behaviour and attitudes. You can change the way you think. See people as humans and not as labels, or stereotypes. See far pass a person’s mental health.

 

 

 

 

STOP THE STIGMA AROUND MENTAL ILLNESSES/MENTAL HEALTH!

STOP THE STIGMA AROUND MENTAL ILLNESSES ESPECIALLY IF YOU HAVE NEVER EXPERIENCED IT!

 

 

For those struggling with a mental illness, don’t be ashamed or embarrassed because you have no reason to be. Get the help you need, don’t try to do it on your own because you won’t succeed. It’ll just get worse, and that won’t be a good outcome. Put your mental health first, get the help you need, and watch the difference. I promise you, getting the help that you need, and making sure you take all your medicines, give yourself time to heal, and staying away from the negative, things can and will get better. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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A Special Apology To All My Followers

Hello guys!! How is everyone’s Sunday going? I hope and pray all is well with each and every one of you. I wish nothing but the best for all of you. I want to apologize for my lack of posts for the past few weeks. I am truly sorry my dears for my lack of posts, I had so much going on. Another one of my cousins died, and I just needed some time to get my mind right. You know? I’m sure you all understand how it is to lose a loved one. Especially, if you’re used to seeing that person everyday, or on a regular. Also, I still struggle from time to time with major depression and anxiety. But I’m doing much better today, and just like any other day, even my bad days… I won’t give up. Even though sometimes I feel like it, I won’t quit. I have my son that looks up to me, his name is Jayden. He loves me dearly, and I love him dearly with all my heart and soul. I’m not perfect at all, and I can’t help that I struggle with a mental illness, I don’t want to be like this I didn’t choose this. Trust me, if I had a choice this something I would run from. Lol. A little joke doesn’t hurt, especially when you’re covering the pain from words. Accept my apology?

 

I am truly sorry everyone, I will make sure that I don’t lack so many posts anymore. Because ending the stigma around mental illnesses is important to me. The way people with mental illnesses are treated is ridiculous and ignorant.

 

I want people with mental illnesses to know that yes you do have a mental illness, but you are still human, that doesn’t make you different at all. I want people with mental illnesses to know that you are not alone, and you don’t have to struggle alone. There is help out there. The stigma around mental illnesses needs to end. That’s why i will keep blogging about it, and spreading the word about it. 

 

Always remember…….

 

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Simper

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Everyday is full…

Full of highs and lows

Full of tears and sorrows

Full of frowns and no hope for tomorrow

 I’m on this journey alone,

Hoping and praying that this pain,

this depression will release from me

I’m tired of pretending

Tired of hiding the feelings and emotions i feel within me

But through everything i still continue to smile

Smiling to hide the emotions, feelings, and guilt that

I feel inside

Pushing all the lies aside

To enjoy myself and to have a good time

It helps to make life worth while

I lost my daddy at a young age

I hated i had to say my daddy was dead

So many thoughts ran through my head

And til this day

I needed you to stay

I didn’t expect to be this way

Tell my baby girl mama said hey

I’ll never forget that day

The day she went away

But inside momma

She’s going to stay

But like i said through everything i still smile

Even if it’s for a second or 1 min

A month or maybe even a year

But a smile can make sadness disappear

I’m making progress

I have dreams of becoming a actress

Life is like a book

Because every day is a new look 

A new page

A new day

To do what you have to do.

I refuse to wake up in despair

I refuse to feed myself into distress

continuously look for a better way

Until then, i’ll stay focus and keep pushing.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Your Mental Health Matters

Good morning everyone. Happy Wednesday to you all, and i pray that you all have a blessed day.

Times get hard, but don’t give up, never give up, just keep pushing. Mental illnesses are extremely hard, and a lot of people don’t actually believe that they’re severe, and the affects that they can have on a persons everyday life. But that’s why im here, to explain, and to let everyone know that mental illnesses (depression) are in fact so real, that a person you’re around almost everyday, could be struggling with a mental illness, but won’t say nothing because of the stigma of mental illnesses. Being ashamed, and embarrassed, but im here to tell you, your mental health matters!

I wanted to share with you all how good my video is doing on Pinterest. If you have time, please do check it out. Let’s stop the stigma of mental illnesses. I’m so proud of how many impressions my video is getting, it means my video is being seen.

Check it out and tell me what you all think.

Also, please feel free to leave a comment below, and/or like if you enjoyed the show. (Haha) Also, follow me for more. Thanks everyone, you’re very much appreciated.

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Lost In Pain, Depression Poem

Lost, Pain, And Depression

I wonder what do you call it when all you feel is pain,

When you’re surrounded with your family, and they look at you, and all you feel is shame,

When you’re tired of living and playing this depression game,

At times, life feels meaningless and you’re the one to blame,

Feeling lost and those thoughts can make you feel insane,

Sitting here thinking like “My life isn’t the same,”

Feeling hurt deep in your soul,

When you’re smiling and laughing,

Knowing it’s all a show,

Feeling like you’re really at your all-time low,

Nothing makes you happy and everything dark begins to grow,

What do you call it when you feel all alone?

When you’re home but the house you live in doesn’t feel like a home,

Looking back at my life like why everything went so wrong,

If you struggle with depression, you are not alone,

Stay and remain strong! Don’t fight depression on your own.

Depression takes you to a very dark place. But you don’t have to go through it alone. There is help. Getting help doesn’t mean that you’re weak, it means you care about yourself and you want to beat this.

You are strong, don’t let your thoughts from depression stir you wrong. You don’t have to do it alone. Don’t be ashamed, you’re only human.

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When Someone Says Depression Isn’t Real…

Do you know how it feels to struggle with depression, or any other mental illness?

You think depression isn’t real, but do you know how does depression feels?

Not wanting to live.

Not wanting to die.

All day, you lay down and just want to cry.

Not being able to explain those feelings you feel inside.

Feeling like nobody cares, cause nobody’s there by your side.

You wake up everyday, pretending to be okay.

Pretending to be okay, so nobody thinks you’re crazy.

Walking around, faking, like you’re happy, but deep down inside, you feel like your breaking.

Feeling full of despair.

Everyday it feels like a nightmare.

Feeling so worthless and so hopeless.

I just pray to get through those moments.

You think depression isn’t real, you think depression is all in the mind, well why are people committing suicide?

Why are people taking their own lives?

All of this, should open the eyes of the ones who think depression is a lie.

People are committing suicide everyday, and everyday the numbers rise.

Don’t let suicide be your option, your life matters, there’s other options.

Keep fighting!!

Let’s stop the stigma of mental illnesses, than people might go get help, to start healing. You are not alone, you don’t have to end it. Things can, and will get better, you just watch and see it.

Your life has meaning.

If you or someone you know, thinking about committing suicide, call this helpline. Suicide hotline

Your life matters!! You matter!!

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Feelings About The Stigma Of Mental Illnesses

I hate the stigma of mental health.

Most people think that you’re faking it, like it’s all in your head, or saying you’re just lazy, or maybe even think that you’re crazy.

Why would i make all of this up? I’m not crazy. I can’t help it i can’t just make up all of these thoughts. Do you think i get up everyday wanting to be distraught? Some people are nuts.

Everyday is hard, everyday is rough, but i still push myself because i can’t, and i won’t give up. Having all these feelings, and having all these thoughts, and the people around me feels, “i just need to suck it up.”

I know right? That is messed up!

Like we all, just wake up everyday determined, to prepare all this stuff, the different thoughts, the feelings of wanting to give up, the feelings of guilt, and the feelings like everything is your fault. Major depression and anxiety, is already hard as it is, and every time i turn around people are talking negative, like mental illnesses isn’t real. Like it’s all in your head, like you can control how you feel.

Depression is nothing but darkness as it is, and family/people not believing that your really ill, not believing depression is actually real or even severe. Like i asked for all this, like i wanted this type of atmosphere. Always feeling guilty and always feeling hopeless, nobody cares and nobody ever notices. Everyday, i get on my knees and i pray. Praying and hoping, that people will understand one day.

Understand that, we’re all still humans, understand that it can even happen to you. Understand that we don’t like, and we didn’t choose, the feelings, and the emotions, mental illnesses brings us through. Understand, we’re not crazy, and we’re not insane, the only difference is, our brains just overthinks. Depression (all mental illnesses) is real, it’s definitely not fake, depression can hit you, you, you, or you any day.

Depression, and any other mental illness, can happen to anybody.

Please!! Wake up and understand.

Depression, anxiety, bipolar, panic disorder, and any other mental illness, does not discriminate. Some people think that it can’t happen to them, but believe me, it can happen to you too.

If you, or someone you know struggling with a mental illness, get help. Nothing is wrong with asking for help, i can vouch for that. I was ashamed to say i needed help, i was ashamed to say how i was feeling, i was ashamed to explain those thoughts that was in my brain, because i thought people would call me crazy, or even insane. But asking for help does not mean you’re weak or defective, depression is really an illness caused by a biochemical imbalance in the brain. You’re a very strong person because, it takes a great deal of strength to fight back, and you’re doing just that. You aren’t weak, everybody needs some kind of help, with something in some way in their lives, and everybody needs somebody, it might not be now, but as time goes by. It’s apart of life.

Do You Agree??

YESSS!YESSS!

To my beautiful followers, i want to thank each and everyone of you, for taking time out of your day to read every blog post, and for the comments, and the likes.

Are you tired of the mental health stigma? Are you tired of being called crazy or insane? Are you tired of the negativity about mental illnesses? Are you tired of people saying it’s all in your head? Feel free to like, comment, and share. Let’s talk.

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9 Things Mental Illness Has Taught Me About Life.

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At Times when we face different challenges, it’s hard to believe that good or favorable things will actually come out of those times of darkness, but there really is. In life, the most important lessons are in the places you’ll never think to look. Down below, are 9 things my mental illness has taught me about life.

1.) An Legitimate Life Is A Good Life.

Living with a mental illness has taught me the power of legitimacy. An legitimate life is a good life. Hiding the truth from others, is impossible to be pleased. Just breathe, be honest about who you are. Being honest about who you are, not worrying about the opinion of others, is a motive for happiness. Be yourself, because pretending to be someone your not does not prevent pain, it actually intensifies it.

2.) Our Mistakes And Our Struggles Improves Us.

I was about 16 or 17yrs old when I was diagnosed with major depression and anxiety. At the time, I really thought my life was over. I thought my life was really ruined. I thought it would ruin my life. But those experiences, is what has improved me, it has actually made me the woman that I am today. The struggles and the mistakes we make, is what made us today. It’s our struggles and mistakes, both present and past, that improves us.

3.) Smiles Can Most Definitely Be Deceiving.

You can’t believe that someone is really happy from on the outside appearance. One year, awhile back in my school days, I was suppose to read a poem for black history month, I was so happy about it at first, than the symptoms of depression began to come up. I felt so separate from myself. The depression became very exhausting, but I still smiled through the pain. Me, living with a mental illness, has taught me that Smiles can most definitely be deceiving and that happiness can easily be mocked up by those struggling.

4.) Normal? There Is No Such Thing As Normal.

Normal? What is normal? The way one person clarifies “normal” might be different others. Some people think those who choose to be honest are crazy, while others believe those people who live according by the rules are fruitcakes. That’s why labels are only for delivery boxes, jars, and handbags, not people. (humans) ok? Ok.

5.) The Definition Of Real Friendships. (Real Friendships!)

Living with a mental illness, people start showing their true colors, and unhappily, you start to see a lot of them prove themselves as undependable/unreliable. But thankfully, thank God, there is a silver lining. We learn the real meaning of friendships. Friends who are there whether we are laughing, crying, or being goofy. Real friends add to your life, even when your at your lowest, even when you feel like giving up. . Do not take these friends for granted.

What’s a silver lining?

Every cloud has a silver lining” it means every tough time or difficulty that causes pain, also contains a potentiality for a generous result. By seeking for any positive things (positive effects) of any problems or even a misleading circumstance, we begin to feel better, we can begin to feel more internal peace in reply to how how things stand, therefore getting back our ability to solve it if we can, or just accept it if we can’t.

6.) It Is Okay To Not Be Okay.

Almost everyday, I have to constantly remind myself , that it is okay to not be okay. Pain we endure in life is truly hard, and absolutely nothing is wrong with asking or reaching out for help when you need it. There’s no gender for depression. Depression doesn’t has no gender, race, or face.

7.) Making Plans In Life, There Is No Such Thing.

Our lives are supposed to be mapped out perfectly and we’re expected to follow a timeline right? Honestly, that kind of mindset will only set yourself up for disappointment. I had plans to go to college, and graduate in 4yrs, had plans to be doing what I love, which is being journalists, I had plans to be in my big dream house. I am 31yrs old now, and I can tell you that my life did not end up like I actually had planned, and I’m kind of grateful it didn’t. Going to a mental clinic and being diagnosed with major depression and anxiety was not on one of my list of plans to do, despite that it taught me that there is no such thing as making plans in life. Sometimes, our dreams change and so does our outlook on life. Make goals and not plans and let your experiences guide you.

8.) Being Considerate Can Save Lives.

Just about every 40 seconds there’s someone who’s committed suicide, somewhere around the world. If someone would have acted considerate and kindly, they could’ve helped get many of the individuals away from the edge. You don’t understand the impact of a action, kind, and considerate word. Being considerate and kind save lives, and caring for/about others only increases our character of life.

9.) Our Beauty Is Found In What Makes Us Different.

I’ve been taught different things living with a mental illness. I’ve also been taught that what makes you different gives you feeling. If someone told you they have a perfect life, they’re lying. There is no such thing as a perfect life, mind, or body trust me. It took me along time, to realize the power of embracing my depression and anxiety mind, that part of me that was suppose to make me feel poor, I saw that beauty is found in what makes us different, and everybody is different in their own little way.

I’ve been taught a lot of things living with a mental illness.