Mental Health: Looks Can Most Definitely Be Deceiving… Don’t Believe It

A person can have everything they could ever imagine. Their life is so perfect, and you never hear anything negative about them. They could be living in a 3 story house, beautiful kids, and a wife/husband.

That husband could be facing unexplainable emotions and feelings. He’s probably ashamed because he’s the man of the house, and men are suppose to be strong. Right?!


A person could be the happiest wife, prettiest wife….

With a big paying job… and on the inside, when that person is by themselves…

Guess what?! At night that person could be struggling with depression, and/or anxiety attacks. That person might be fighting for their life on the inside.

When that person is by themself, and home alone… they probably just sit crying inside. You never know what a person is going through. You never know what type of demons a person could be fighting on a daily basis. You don’t know what type of emotions or/and feelings this person face everyday. They feel like they’re dying on the inside. Thoughts and emotions rushing through your mind, feeling hopeless, feeling like nothing is even worth it. You’re just so unhappy. But you pretend well because you don’t know who to trust… or who to tell.

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Mental Health: To Those Who’ve Never Even Experienced Mental Illness… I’m Here To Tell You All About It

What is Mental Illness?

Mental illnesses are brain-based conditions that affect thinking, emotions, and behaviors. We all have brains— so since we all have brains, having some kind of mental health issue during your life is very common.

Us, who have a mental illness, we can’t help that our brains has changed in a way which makes it hard to think, feel, or act in ways that we want to. Experiencing extreme and unexpected changes in mood- like feeling more sad or worried than normal. Some mental illnesses makes it hard to communicate with someone who’s talking to them, or not being able to think clearly, or having bizarre thoughts to help explain weird feelings we’re having.

Clinical depression. The persistent feeling of sadness or loss of interest that’s characterizes major depression can lead to a range of behavioral and physical symptoms. These may include changes in sleep, appetite, energy level, concentration, self-esteem, or daily behavior. Depression can also be associated with thoughts of suicide.

Anxiety disorder. A mental health disorder characterized feelings of worry, anxiety, or fear that are strong enough to interfere with daily life. Examples of anxiety is panic attacks, obsessive-compulsive disorder, and post-traumatic stress disorder.

Bipolar disorder. A disorder linked with episodes of mood swings ranging from depressive lows to manic highs.

Schizophrenia. A disorder that effects a person’s ability to think, feel, and behave clearly.

Autism. A serious developmental disorder that impacts the ability to communicate and interact.

Post traumatic stress disorder. A disorder in which a person has difficulty recovering after experiencing or witnessing a terrifying event. The condition may last months or years, with triggers that bring back memories of the trauma accompanied by intense emotional and physical reactions.

Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder. A chronic condition including attention difficulty, hyperactive, and impulsiveness. It often starts in childhood and can persist in adulthood. Symptoms include limited attention and hyperactivity.

Just to name some severe, mental illnesses.

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Mental Health: When Major Depression Makes You Lose Hope, Remember Don’t Give Up, There Is Hope

Losing hope from major depression can make life very difficult. It can make every moment, every part, of life feel impossible.

No matter what your situation is, don’t lose hope and don’t lose focus. The belief that your life can and will get better is a essential part of recovery from major depression. Happily, hope a renewable resource.

Everyday won’t be a good day, some days are worse than others, but hope guides us through the darkest times. Without it, we stay mired in despair. Hope allows us to believe that change is very possible— that even in the midst of that relapse, you’ll find yourself again. Hope is what gives us the strength to right back up and try again.

What is hope exactly, and how to sustain it?

It’s a character trait that helps us thrive. The desire to attain a certain end and the belief it is very much possible to attain it.

Hope relies on what psychologists call “agency”— the certainty that you can deploy control over your actions and your environment.

Optimism also plays a big role— the confidence that things will somehow work out for the better. “Hope” is a combination of lessening suffering and psychic pain and building more positive assumptions for the future.

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Hello Everyone… New Post Coming Up So Please Stay Tuned

Hello hello everyone! I hope you all are having a great Tuesday.

Up next…. when major depression makes you lose hope, remember don’t give up. So to all my beautiful followers stay tuned. This post is next up.

Sorry it’s been a few days since posting… but I had therapy and some other appointments I had to make it to, but I’m still here fighting. And I want/expect others to continue to fight with me. We in this together, and believe me when I say… it can and will get better!! We got this fight. We not giving up. There’s that beautiful light at the end of the tunnel for all of us.

Everyday won’t be a good day but pray, stay focused, and keep pushing yourself. Things can and will get better.

Also…. if you or someone you know struggling with your mental health… get the help that you need. It’s a must. Your mental health is another priority just like a physical illness, you get treated for diabetes, you can be treated for your mental illness. Muah!! Don’t give up you’re not no where near alone. Keep pushing. Keep fighting.

When You’re Angry/Stressed/Depressed… There’s Healthy Ways To Calm Yourself. These Techniques Are Guaranteed To Help….

Introduction


Calm yourself. Take a deep breath. Hold it for a second, then exhale slowly. Breathing and physical activities are one way of relaxing. Feel more relaxed? Here I’m going to teach you different ways to relax your body, mind, and soul. When you’re relaxed, it helps to ease stress. It can also relieve depression, anxiety, and sleep problems.

We all have our days. Some days are worse than others, leaving you stressed out… with so much to worry about.

We all face stressful situations throughout our lives, ranging from minor annoyances like traffic jams to more serious worrying, such as a loved one dying, or a love one’s grace illness. No matter what the cause stress floods your body with hormones. Your heart pounds, your breathing speeds up, and your muscles tense.

Relaxing…

  • To relax it means to calm your body, your mind, or even both.
  • When relaxed, it quiets your mind, it makes you feel more peaceful and calm. Your body also reacts when you’re relaxed. To make a example, your muscles might be less tense and more flexible.
  • There’s so many ways to relax. You might actually find one or more ways that helps you to be calm, that’ll help calm you down, and feel at peace.
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Mental Health: Don’t Worry About What Others Say About Your Mental Illness

Worry Less Live More

You’re not to blame for your mental illness, neither are you to blame, for the thoughts and feelings that comes right along with it. It’s not your fault, it’s a medical result. Something you don’t want but truly and honestly, you gets no choice… it’s remorseless. It also affects your behavior, and concentration, making it difficult to do the simplest things.

When it comes to mental illness… people say the darnedest things!! With no kind of understanding.

Mental illness is sometimes debilitating, embarrassing, and really really misunderstood. Many people just don’t understand. What’s the most insensitive thing someone’s said to you about your mental illness??

I’ve heard things like “I had depression and I got over mine.” Really?! Yes! How harsh is that right? I’ve also heard, “it’s time for you to grow up now,” or “maybe you need a hobby,” wow right? I’m serious. I’m telling you the truth. It’s devastating. That was horrible to say to someone with a mental illness.

But no matter what, don’t let such ignorance get to you. People need to think before speaking because, you never know what someone is going through. Sometimes you don’t have to say nothing. Your presence could be enough. Imagine a friend comes to see you in the hospital, don’t know why but, when you tell him/her they reply, “At least it’s not cancer,” enough for you to slap them (lol) just kidding, just a little humor…. but yeah it makes you angry because mental illness is just as serious as other physical illnesses. You can to die from mental illness just like you can die from a physical condition.

Everyone is “fighting a battle you know nothing about.” So try to be kind… you won’t die from being kind. You can’t judge a book by it’s cover is indeed a very true saying.

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Mental Health: Some People Just Don’t Understand The Battles, Nor The Struggles, Of Having A Mental Illness

 What Is Mental Illness??….

Mental Illness: are health conditions including changes in thinking or behavior (or a combination of these), and emotion. Mental illness are associated with distress or/and problems, functioning in social activities, or work. Each person will have, or may have different experiences, even those with the same diagnosis.

Understand Mental Illness Symptoms: It can happen to anyone, without a warning. Girl or boy, man or woman… mental illness does not discriminate. Even some celebrities battle mental illness. So… why is it so ‘unbelievable’ or so ‘unreal’ to so many people? It doesn’t matter the gender, the color, the age, or if you’re super rich.

 Major depression and anxiety is a medical problem, just like diabetes, and lupus. Mental illness is nothing to be ashamed about. Nothing.

Dealing with major depression and anxiety isn’t at all easy, a lot of people actually believe you can just ‘shake it off’ and you’ll be alright. Not! Don’t we all wish it was really that simple? When the anxiety kicks in, or when you’re just constantly sad, and full of emotions, don’t we all just wish we could shake those feelings quick like so many people think? I wish it was just that easy to shake major depression, or any mental illness. But it’s not at all easy. It also takes time to find the right medications that’s right for you. Having a mental illness is hard! For all of us. It’s not just something that comes and goes in our lives. It’s something we might have to deal with for the rest of our lives. You can’t just ‘snap out of it.’ 

 Having a good support system, eating right, taking your meds everyday, and getting counseling and other resources that may be helpful to you, you can actually live a normal life. Now on the other hand, if you don’t have a great support system, it can be tough on you, but don’t give up on you. I know, and understand how it feels to not have any support, and I know how it feels to go through it alone. It makes you isolate yourself from everyone, because you’re always being told “You choose to be this way” or “I had depression before and I was okay.” Sometimes you might even hear “snap out of it already” or “You have no reason to be depressed.” 

Not knowing, or understanding, what you’re actually going through. Not understanding, that each day is a battle, a battle that’s so hard for you, each day is a fight, a fight for your life, it’s like a nightmare that just doesn’t want to leave you. So many dark thoughts, and feelings, so many emotions, you just go numb.

 Some people are just so inconsiderate, and ignorant. Having a mental illness is already a big war day-by-day with your mind, feeling like your worthless, feeling like you don’t belong, feeling like your all alone, feeling lost, feeling happy one minute and a few minutes later your sad, trying to think positive but the thoughts are still there floating inside of you, in your mind. Thoughts racing, feeling so guilty, feeling so drained… by the time night time fall… the only energy you have left, is to just get in bed.

And would you believe there’s some people who actually believe, it’s all in ‘our heads’. It’s unbelievable. They just don’t understand. Continue reading “Mental Health: Some People Just Don’t Understand The Battles, Nor The Struggles, Of Having A Mental Illness”

Mental Health: Need Some Help Getting Your Motivation Back? I Can Help You With That.

Always remember: You Are What You Are… And You Mean So Much To This World. Wake Up Everyday, Determined To Store In You Motivation. Make It A Priority. You Are Strong, And Phenomenal.

Hello everyone!! Good morning I hope you’re enjoying your Sunday. Or are you having a crappy day? Need a little motivation? Okay… that’s why I’m here….

We all have some good days, and than, we all have those bad days. Not everyday is going to be a perfect day. Not everyday is going to be a good day… everyday have a purpose.

I know exactly how those days are. Especially…. when dealing with mental illness. It’s painful and it drains you. Not physically but emotionally… but you mustn’t lose hope. You mean so much to this world. Now I know depression by itself, can kill your motivation by making you feel like there’s no point to anything.

Major depression, clinical depressionis very severe. Those in a major clinical depression, life is like a dark place full of nothing but pain, hopelessness, and insecurity. Some may taunt at the ideal of medication as an answer. But with most mental illness, medications are much needed. Therapy and taking your medications can actually be a miracle. Medications are for, and deal with chemical imbalances.

Sometimes the blame can actually be placed on brain chemistry. Neurotransmitters don’t work right, and brain chemicals such as serotonin, norepinephrine, and dopamine— your feel-good chemicals— often doesn’t go where they’re suppose to. Find the right medications, and you may feel more like your actual self again. When you’re feeling better, becoming motivated becomes more easier.

A good therapist goes hand in hand with medications. One without the other is kind of a half-solution. Talking to a trained professional therapist, you’ll feel better because you’re sitting and talking to someone who knows how to listen.

Good friends listen, yes, but don’t go forego a therapist for a friend. Well-meaning friends may tell you to just get over it or to pull yourself up by your bootstraps and socks. This effects in a remorseless cycle. Making you feel worthless and stupid because you’re finding it hard to brush your teeth, much less to pull yourself up by your bootstraps and socks. This leads to a deepening depression/mental illness, which leads to more “helpful” remarks, which in fact, leads to even more depression. More anxiety. Unfortunately the thick, ugly scars of depression, or any other mental illness, are not outwardly visible, and when your wounds aren’t visible, sympathy from your friends, and family, is hard to come by.

Surround yourself around people who are familiar with mental illness instead of those who believe it’s just all in your head. Every morning wake up, brush your teeth, and brush your hair, take your bath and get dressed. Don’t give yourself time to second think, don’t give yourself time to talk yourself out of it. Act as if you feel great already and you know for a fact you’re leaving the house and have a good time. Getting dressed, getting pretty looking decent can actually go along way towards giving you a mental boost. It may even give you enough energy, motivation to actually go to the gym, or exercise, which is great for alleviating mental illness, such as, depression.

Depression… major depression can change your brain in a way that makes it difficult to experience a sense of pleasure or reward. When depression makes you unbearably sad, numb, or exhausted, you might not feel like there is a reason to do anything. Most times you feel like “what’s the point right?”

When depression, or any other mental illness drains your motivation, you have to work to create new incentive to replace what existed naturally before your mental health deteriorated. It starts with setting goals. You can set a simple goal such as, grocery shopping. Once you succeed that… reward yourself by cooking your favorite meal, and watch/catch up on your favorite tv show.

Steadily increase the difficulty of the goals. As you feel better. Try taking a long walk and reward yourself later with your favorite chocolate candy. Like for example, my favorite chocolate candy is the chocolate turtles. Mmm Mmm Mmm good! (lol) Or another one of my favorites… chocolate cupcake. Whichever is your favorite though. Good treat.

I love cupcakes. Especially chocolate. Like for instance today… I washed and fold clothes, mopped and cleaned up my apartment, and treated myself with a chocolate cupcake with a lot of icing. My favorite, my treat. Order your favorite movie, or do like me… Watch a good movie on Netflix. Make sure to always set a goal for each day, once they’re accomplished, treat yourself to something new. There’s different options you can try, and see which works better.

Remember Your Life Before Depression/mental illness

Before depression set in, before you started struggling from mental illness, what did you enjoy doing? As they all come to mind, get a paper and write them all down. Than positioning them in terms of what you are able to accomplish, from most to least difficult. Until you are more motivated and have more energy, it’s best to start with the easy steps.

Think on what steps you can take to get back into a routine that includes those same activities. You might like volunteer work. Your next step should be to make some calls, and make a start day to make it happen. Than show up. Your motivation a start building up from there.

In a similar mood, think about what motivated you before the depression, before your mental health problems. What was it that inspired you? It could be from now or childhood. Revisit those sources of motivation. Get in touch with parts of yourself that may feel distant.

Evaluate Any Negative SelfTalk

Mental illness, like depression, is often a unconscious voice that relentlessly tells you there is no point in anything. Replace those negative thoughts with positive, intelligent beliefs. Tell yourself everyday, over and over, there is a point, you are somebody, you are beautiful. Even if you don’t believe it. Say it!

Look At Outer Factors

Sometimes outer factors kill your vibe, your motivation and contribute to clinical depression. Say you’re stuck at a dead end job. The only motivation you have to do good work is to keep your job and put food in your home. And honestly, it’s obviously not as refreshing as an environment you can move up and have more responsibilities if you work hard.

Here Are A Few Common Situations That Might Be Killing Motivation:

  • Being a victim of discrimination
  • Abuse or bullying in school or maybe at your job
  • A chronic illness or exhausting health issue
  • Family or friends who put you down

Does one or more of these factors are present in your life? Than examine the affect they have on your ability to feel motivated.

Everyone who hurt you, makes you feel worthless, and unmotivated… if you have to dismiss them out of your life than do so. You don’t need negative people around you. Surround yourself with positive people with positive vibes. I promise you’ll see the difference.

Everyday get out of bed and out of them pajamas… simply getting up is a great victory of the day to start off with. If you have to leave little sticky notes around with positive affirmations where you see them all the time, such as “you’re beautiful,” “yes you can do it,” or “every long journey begins with one little step.” Another one… “never give up!” Whatever thoughts you create your brain digest, so make sure to feed it positive ones. Read uplifting content. And focus on feelings of gratitude.

Whatever gives you an energy boost, mental boost, do it. There’s many techniques, choose those that works for you. Worry less, motivate yourself back on track in your life.

Focus on you!! Focus on what motivates you to move forward. Focus on making “you” happy. Focus on getting you better. Focus on putting yourself first everyday, treat yourself… take a ride to the mall, or catch a movie, buy yourself a new outfit, live in the moment.

Everyday look in the mirror, and tell yourself, “I love you,”and “you got this,” tell yourself, “you’re beautiful Inside and out,” whether you believe it or not… repeat this everyday. Make it a routine to pamper yourself, make it a routine to tell yourself nice things.

Each and everyday are days to motivate yourself, and set goals for yourself. Try it…. it really works, it starts to spark up motivation.

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Mental Illness Does Not Discriminate… It Affects All

I am one of the 1 in 5 who struggles with mental health. I have, in fact, been plagued by mental health problems since my early teenage years, it got worse up into adulthood. I am now 32 years old. In the beginning, I was embarrassed about it, just to be honest. Hearing all the negative stigma and all… it took about 5 years to realize be hiding my mental illness is going right along with the stigma, it was like I was contributing to the negative stigma. I eventually got tired of the negative thoughts on mental illness. I started to be more open about it. Now, I don’t care who know. I don’t care what others say. I know I didn’t choose this. I know it’s not ‘all in my mind.’ I know I’m not ‘crazy,’ as most people say.

My aim is to make a significant contribution to eliminating mental health stigma, which sadly still prevails. There are still many many misunderstandings about mental illness. Nobody is protected or immune— rich, poor, young, old.

Even if you do not have a history of depression, without warning, it can strike upon either the slightest or most significant change in life circumstance. We cannot immune ourselves from its reach. The most frightening reality is that we are all quite possibly one-life changing moment from being wrapped in depression’s tentacles. Losing a child, getting a divorce, the death of a loved one, any of these, all of these, can send you spiraling into a pit of a mental illness, depression. At any moment. Even people on top hit rock bottom.

Mental illness does not discriminate… it can happen, it can affect anyone regardless of any age and any gender. It doesn’t matter. It affects you in all stages of life, from birth through adulthood. And it affects you in every aspect of your day to day living. It is an equal opportunity illness that can afflict us all at anytime.

Mental illness does not care if you are a Hollywood celebrity, like Wil Wheaton(who shared his amazingly candid story on medium about his battle). His story….

Wil Wheaton Share His Battle With Mental Illness

When our mental health becomes compromised, it can prevent you from coping, engaging in life, and realizing our full potential. It affects our family, productivity, and friendships, which in turn impacts our society and communities.

Just like there are many physical illnesses such as cancer, diabetes, or colitis there are too many mental illnesses. Some may experience the constant worry, fear and debilitating effects of anxiety or maybe panic attacks, while others may endure the extreme lows of depression. Many may suffer the life altering effects of an eating disorder, bipolar disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder, or a trauma disorder, and others can live with schizophrenia or psychosis, just to name a few.

Just like other physical illnesses, mental illnesses are mild, but the others can be much more severe. Be it anxiety or diabetes, professional treatment is usually needed although there isn’t the perfect cure but there is hope.

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To my beautiful followers….

Don’t miss it!! Mental illness does not discriminate, It affects all… it don’t matter your age or gender. Your skin color it makes no difference. Mental illness can happen to anybody. It can start in the beginning, and last for a century. It can start at age 10 or 15, it’s confusing… it comes without a warning. Leaving you wondering if something’s wrong with you, it just comes out the blue. Even celebrities, has to deal with those same illnesses.

It can happen to anybody. Black or white….

If you or someone you know… think you may be struggling with depression or any other mental illness… talk to your doctor. Please! And remember you are not alone. Remember there is hope. Never give up! Keep fighting! And keep pushing! —- Face Depression

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