Mental Health: Need Some Help Getting Your Motivation Back? I Can Help You With That.

Mental Health: Need Some Help Getting Your Motivation Back? I Can Help You With That.

Always remember: You Are What You Are… And You Mean So Much To This World. Wake Up Everyday, Determined To Store In You Motivation. Make It A Priority. You Are Strong, And Phenomenal.

Hello everyone!! Good morning I hope you’re enjoying your Sunday. Or are you having a crappy day? Need a little motivation? Okay… that’s why I’m here….

We all have some good days, and than, we all have those bad days. Not everyday is going to be a perfect day. Not everyday is going to be a good day… everyday have a purpose.

I know exactly how those days are. Especially…. when dealing with mental illness. It’s painful and it drains you. Not physically but emotionally… but you mustn’t lose hope. You mean so much to this world. Now I know depression by itself, can kill your motivation by making you feel like there’s no point to anything.

Major depression, clinical depressionis very severe. Those in a major clinical depression, life is like a dark place full of nothing but pain, hopelessness, and insecurity. Some may taunt at the ideal of medication as an answer. But with most mental illness, medications are much needed. Therapy and taking your medications can actually be a miracle. Medications are for, and deal with chemical imbalances.

Sometimes the blame can actually be placed on brain chemistry. Neurotransmitters don’t work right, and brain chemicals such as serotonin, norepinephrine, and dopamine— your feel-good chemicals— often doesn’t go where they’re suppose to. Find the right medications, and you may feel more like your actual self again. When you’re feeling better, becoming motivated becomes more easier.

A good therapist goes hand in hand with medications. One without the other is kind of a half-solution. Talking to a trained professional therapist, you’ll feel better because you’re sitting and talking to someone who knows how to listen.

Good friends listen, yes, but don’t go forego a therapist for a friend. Well-meaning friends may tell you to just get over it or to pull yourself up by your bootstraps and socks. This effects in a remorseless cycle. Making you feel worthless and stupid because you’re finding it hard to brush your teeth, much less to pull yourself up by your bootstraps and socks. This leads to a deepening depression/mental illness, which leads to more “helpful” remarks, which in fact, leads to even more depression. More anxiety. Unfortunately the thick, ugly scars of depression, or any other mental illness, are not outwardly visible, and when your wounds aren’t visible, sympathy from your friends, and family, is hard to come by.

Surround yourself around people who are familiar with mental illness instead of those who believe it’s just all in your head. Every morning wake up, brush your teeth, and brush your hair, take your bath and get dressed. Don’t give yourself time to second think, don’t give yourself time to talk yourself out of it. Act as if you feel great already and you know for a fact you’re leaving the house and have a good time. Getting dressed, getting pretty looking decent can actually go along way towards giving you a mental boost. It may even give you enough energy, motivation to actually go to the gym, or exercise, which is great for alleviating mental illness, such as, depression.

Depression… major depression can change your brain in a way that makes it difficult to experience a sense of pleasure or reward. When depression makes you unbearably sad, numb, or exhausted, you might not feel like there is a reason to do anything. Most times you feel like “what’s the point right?”

When depression, or any other mental illness drains your motivation, you have to work to create new incentive to replace what existed naturally before your mental health deteriorated. It starts with setting goals. You can set a simple goal such as, grocery shopping. Once you succeed that… reward yourself by cooking your favorite meal, and watch/catch up on your favorite tv show.

Steadily increase the difficulty of the goals. As you feel better. Try taking a long walk and reward yourself later with your favorite chocolate candy. Like for example, my favorite chocolate candy is the chocolate turtles. Mmm Mmm Mmm good! (lol) Or another one of my favorites… chocolate cupcake. Whichever is your favorite though. Good treat.

I love cupcakes. Especially chocolate. Like for instance today… I washed and fold clothes, mopped and cleaned up my apartment, and treated myself with a chocolate cupcake with a lot of icing. My favorite, my treat. Order your favorite movie, or do like me… Watch a good movie on Netflix. Make sure to always set a goal for each day, once they’re accomplished, treat yourself to something new. There’s different options you can try, and see which works better.

Remember Your Life Before Depression/mental illness

Before depression set in, before you started struggling from mental illness, what did you enjoy doing? As they all come to mind, get a paper and write them all down. Than positioning them in terms of what you are able to accomplish, from most to least difficult. Until you are more motivated and have more energy, it’s best to start with the easy steps.

Think on what steps you can take to get back into a routine that includes those same activities. You might like volunteer work. Your next step should be to make some calls, and make a start day to make it happen. Than show up. Your motivation a start building up from there.

In a similar mood, think about what motivated you before the depression, before your mental health problems. What was it that inspired you? It could be from now or childhood. Revisit those sources of motivation. Get in touch with parts of yourself that may feel distant.

Evaluate Any Negative SelfTalk

Mental illness, like depression, is often a unconscious voice that relentlessly tells you there is no point in anything. Replace those negative thoughts with positive, intelligent beliefs. Tell yourself everyday, over and over, there is a point, you are somebody, you are beautiful. Even if you don’t believe it. Say it!

Look At Outer Factors

Sometimes outer factors kill your vibe, your motivation and contribute to clinical depression. Say you’re stuck at a dead end job. The only motivation you have to do good work is to keep your job and put food in your home. And honestly, it’s obviously not as refreshing as an environment you can move up and have more responsibilities if you work hard.

Here Are A Few Common Situations That Might Be Killing Motivation:

  • Being a victim of discrimination
  • Abuse or bullying in school or maybe at your job
  • A chronic illness or exhausting health issue
  • Family or friends who put you down

Does one or more of these factors are present in your life? Than examine the affect they have on your ability to feel motivated.

Everyone who hurt you, makes you feel worthless, and unmotivated… if you have to dismiss them out of your life than do so. You don’t need negative people around you. Surround yourself with positive people with positive vibes. I promise you’ll see the difference.

Everyday get out of bed and out of them pajamas… simply getting up is a great victory of the day to start off with. If you have to leave little sticky notes around with positive affirmations where you see them all the time, such as “you’re beautiful,” “yes you can do it,” or “every long journey begins with one little step.” Another one… “never give up!” Whatever thoughts you create your brain digest, so make sure to feed it positive ones. Read uplifting content. And focus on feelings of gratitude.

Whatever gives you an energy boost, mental boost, do it. There’s many techniques, choose those that works for you. Worry less, motivate yourself back on track in your life.

Focus on you!! Focus on what motivates you to move forward. Focus on making “you” happy. Focus on getting you better. Focus on putting yourself first everyday, treat yourself… take a ride to the mall, or catch a movie, buy yourself a new outfit, live in the moment.

Everyday look in the mirror, and tell yourself, “I love you,”and “you got this,” tell yourself, “you’re beautiful Inside and out,” whether you believe it or not… repeat this everyday. Make it a routine to pamper yourself, make it a routine to tell yourself nice things.

Each and everyday are days to motivate yourself, and set goals for yourself. Try it…. it really works, it starts to spark up motivation.

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Have A Mental Illness? Don’t Be Embarrassed, Getting The Help That You Need Shows Value

The stigma that surrounds mental illnesses causes most people to not even try to get the help that they need. They feel embarrassed, or ashamed to admit that they’re dealing with a mental illness. But getting help just shows that you have plenty strength. Those who struggle with a mental illness are the strongest. Don’t be embarrassed.

There’s so much negative stigma about mental illnesses, it’s so hard to not be embarrassed or ashamed. Right? But what’s said about mental illnesses aren’t facts! In fact, it’s said by people who haven’t even experienced it.

Matter of fact, the stigma comes from people who don’t try to even get the facts, or people who have no knowledge on Mental Health.

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A BIG THUMBS UP ON THAT ONE RIGHT??!!

Tell yourself this everyday:

Today is a fresh start, another day to keep fighting.

Tomorrow there’s always a possibility of sunshine. Just keep trying.

Tell yourself this everyday that you wake up.

Yes most times it’s hard to understand your own mind can tear you down. A never ending remorseless cycle, the overwhelming sadness, emptiness, numbness, feeling glued in your own mind that won’t slow down. How every little essential task you once took for granted now feels so hard to handle, feeling so exhausted, and it’s so hard to complete. An endless race, or marathon, of thoughts and feelings. The dark ones feeling oh so real, and strong. Yes you know for a fact that most of that isn’t true, yes you know that it won’t solve your problem, but that doesn’t matter.

Whatever you got to do to get out, and get away from this terrible, terrible pain. You’re feeling like you’re going to lose your mind, like you’re losing control of your own mind. You feel like you’re being forcedly sucked into this black hole of darkness, loneliness. Feeling like you’ve lost control.

Then here comes the shame and the guilt. You hate yourself because you can’t seem to control your mind, questioning what’s wrong with you, why can’t you get it together. Why is this happening to me? My life isn’t awful. I really have no reason to feel this way, at all. Why me?! The remorseless cycle seems like it will never come to an end.

This is a type of pain that no one can see. Smiling at everyone, but feeling such emptiness. You try to keep your life moving on like everything is a okay. Everyday is harder and harder. By the time nighttime fall, all you want to do is sleep, tired and exhausted, from your mind overthinking, with different thoughts, racing by the minutes all day long. While trying to act “normal.” Is there anyone who actually knows what normal is?

You have to realize that it is reality and you have to face it. It’s not about what people say, or what you may see online, or what’s on social media, it’s not the perfect pretty smiles, or a family who has it all together. It’s people with flaws and raw emotions growing in love. I have learned that depression and anxiety do not care what kind of life you live, and they definitely do not care who you is.

You have no reason to be ashamed, or embarrassed. So don’t be. You have no reason to be. You didn’t choose to be that way. I didn’t choose to be this way either. This is real. You can’t just snap out of this, this isn’t something you can talk yourself out of. No matter what your mental illness may be, you did not choose it. I was diagnosed with major depression and anxiety, it has been a very long process but this is me. I am not ashamed of being on medications, and talking to a counselor. It feels amazing, and I can actually live! I can actually breathe! Getting the help that you know you need, you’ll be able to breathe, and you’ll be able to live!

Mental illness has a million faces and I am not ashamed to admit that I am one of them. Honestly, I don’t even care who know, and who doesn’t know. This is me, Jackie. I’m so glad I got the help when I needed it. I didn’t want to be another statistic. It’s always nice to know that you’re not alone, but what’s even sadder is how many people go through life without getting treatment. I’m so sick of the stigma about mental illnesses. I’m sick of all the negative stigma that’s thrown in with it. Just because we “don’t appear” to have issues doesn’t mean our feelings are invalid.

As I continue to grow in life I’m learning that this is part of who I am. I’ve been embracing it and learning to cope. I don’t care who judge me. I don’t care what people say about me either. It just makes me sad for them and happy that I finally found the small light flash to guide me out to get the help I needed to get out of that darkness hole. Even though my journey has been hard, it’s been tough, dealing with it all by myself, but I’ll never give up! I will keep fighting and I will keep pushing. I don’t wish this on anyone.

You can and will be so proud of yourself. Live in the moment and be very mindful. Everyday is a step, a battle waiting, waiting to be won. Nobody’s perfect so it’s okay to have setbacks. Please get the help that you need, talk to someone if you are feeling like this. Don’t ignore it, thinking you can take over it, thinking it will go away on it’s own. You have no reason to be embarrassed. You have no reason to be ashamed.

You didn’t choose to be this way. Don’t give up! And most importantly… YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

Accept it, Face it, and Fight it!!!